When the emotions don't keep up

Have you ever experienced that? That your emotions aren't keeping up with reality?

I'll try to give an example:
Many relatives have sometime experienced people around them saying things such as: "But you have to leave him/her!" or "How can you love him/her after they let you down?"

My conclusion is that the emotions haven't really caught up with what is happening in reality. Logically, we can tell that the best thing to do is perhaps to leave, or that you shouldn't love a person that treated you so bad. But the emotions don't get that, yet.

To give another even more evident example: Let's say that someone you love dies, then your love for that person is not going to die as well, because of that. You keep on loving the person even if they are not here in the reality anymore. So, the emotions are not keeping up with reality.

I wonder how you are supposed to act in relation to that fact?
I guess that in some cases you let the emotions control you, even if they aren't based on how reality is, and in other cases you let the logic steer your decisions, despite what your emotions might be telling you.

Perhaps you can also accept that you feel one way but act in another, and that it is ok to do so. The two of them, emotions and action, don't always have to be connected.

Hmm... maybe I'm just rambling at this point…

What do you think? Do you have examples of when this has happened?

/Carina

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