Are you tired of dwelling?

The things that happens to us in life need to be processed, especially when we have experienced traumatic events and things that are hard in life. To process those events, it is worth a lot to have someone to bounce things on, a friend or a professional, that helps the thoughts to move on. Sometimes we get stuck when we try to process, though. Then we can start to dwell instead, the same thing over and over again. We fall asleep with the same though that we wake up with and we don't get anywhere. In the end you get so terribly tired and sick of your own thoughts. Here is a tip on what you can do, if you feel like you are stuck on one thought and you have a hard time concentrating on other things.

Decide on a time each day when you can dwell to the max.
For example: "Today, at 3 pm, I'll get to dwell however much I want for 20 minutes." If you start to dwell before 3 pm you tell yourself: -"OK, these thoughts will have to wait until 3 pm." and then concentrate on something else. When 3 pm rolls around you sit down and think, write, cry and dwell all you can during a fixed period of time. When that time is over you focus on other things again and decide on a new time to dwell the next day. In that way the dwelling doesn't occupy your whole day and you can reclaim focus and do other things. This exercise has helped me. After a period of time you will probably sit down to dwell and come to the conclusion that it is really boring and that you'd rather do something else with your time. That's when you have gotten over your dwelling!