How does your reality really look like?

A lot of relatives to alcohol- and drugusers often deny how the reality looks like, just like the user denies his/her problem. Instead, the person holds on to dreams and hope. It becomes almost impossible to make healthy and smart decisions for a person who does not except the reality for what it really is, for a person who ignores important facts. 

How does your reality really look like? Grab a piece of paper and a pen, and write it down! 
Here are some questions that might help you on the way: 

• How are you feeling, and how have you been feeling the last six months?
• How many days of the month are affected by the substance abuse? 
• Do you have any personal limits that you have crossed, limits that you never thought you would break?
• If your current situation would go on for two more years, how would you feel after these years?
• Is there anyone else in your presence whom might be affected by the substance abuse? Children understand more than we might think...
• Is there anyone you care about who you have neglected in consequence of the abuse?
• Is there anything you are trying to control, that is really out of your limit?

I hope you have the courage to answer these questions truthfully! It might be painful, but it will give you the opportunity to make more healthy decisions when it comes to your own life and your own well-being!