Define yourself in strengthening words!

Here is a challenge that can help you strengthen your selfesteem. Do it if you want to encourage yourself!

We often put negative labels on ourselves, such as:

- I'm dependent
- I'm a failure
- I'm a victim
- I'm always in bad luck
- I'm stupid
and so on... you get it. We feed our thoughts and brains with these labels. How positive does that get? How much power and strength do I feel if I tell myself those things? Probably none. I'll probably only get sad, feel worthless and won't dare to put energy into things I'd like to do, because I'm already convinced that I'll fail.

That is why you should do the opposite! Write down 5 positive or strengthening labels on yourself, things you know to be true. Words that can encourage you, support you, make you happier and stronger. Then put them on a place where you can see them every day!

Example:
- I'm courageous!
- I'm understanding!
- I'm vigorous!
- I'm actionable!
- I'm responsible!

If it's hard to come up with characeristics of yourself that are encouraging and strengthening, think back to moments when you've felt that you succeeded, when you were satisfied with yourself, which characteristics made you able to succeed with that?

Exchange the negative thoughts about yourself with strengthening thoughts!

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Trusting others more than yourself...

A lot of people living with someone who has substance abuse problems, or who has grown up in a family in similar conditions, often trust others more than themselves. And in addition they often choose to trust the person with substance abuse problems rather than themselves.

What does that lead to? Obviously insecurity, low self esteem and it reduces the opportunities to make decisions in favor for themselves. That's when you listen to what someone else thinks, rather than how you yourself are reasoning or feeling. Our emotions, values and thoughts are our guides that point out which decisions are good for us and which aren't.

Does this describe you?

In that case, what do you emotions tell you? What is your gut feeling telling you? Listen to yourself - and dare to trust yourself! You are the most important person in your life because you are guaranteed to be living with yourself for the rest of your life!

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Who is your best friend?

Do you often do things for others that you don't really want to do? Do you say yes but you mean no? Or do you cancel or neglect things you'd want to do in favor of someone else's needs? Do you say no to yourself and your needs and prioritize other's?

Who are you guaranteed to live with every second, minute, day, week, month and year for the rest of your life?
Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend!

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