If you go through a traumatic experience shame is often an emotion that appears afterwards. Shame worsens the process of recovery and the ability to heal because the person is unable to forgive themselves for being at the wrong place at the wrong time. Shame can also appear because of our culture, religion, family, our childhood or the past.
People with strong feelings of shame often have bad self esteem and feel different and less worthy and in some cases they feel like bad or evil people. The trauma and the resulting shame strengthen one another, which causes a bigger damage in mental wounds. In the end, the consequences can be that the traumatized person no longer feel that they are worthy to be loved or lead a good life. To get rid of the feelings of shame is a essential part of recovery after a traumatic experience.
If you need help to handle your feelings of shame you should talk to a professional therapist. One of the most effective actions to reduce the shame is to express your feelings, get guidance and support in your healing process. If you don't want to go to a therapist a loyal friend can be a replacement and offer help, the main point is that you talk to someone to release the shame. Your listener should be someone that supports you and shows you acceptance with a positive attitude.
After that you have to agree to forgive yourself. Ask yourself if your life would be different or better if you could forgive yourself and let your thoughts of shame go.
Lastly, have faith!
However big your feeling of shame may be or have been, it is possible to heal.
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