All of you that live with a person with addiction and substance abuse problems surely know how emotions go up and down. Black or white. You can hate, love and have great sorrows all in one hour. The emotions change quickly. It's exhausting and confusing.
My tip is to practice ACCEPTANCE! To accept that the emotions go back and forth. It is OK. You are not meant to act on every emotion that comes along! That can lead to doing actions that you later regret. And it can get unpredictable consequences. Pain and anger can make us act in a way that we later on wish we wouldn't have.
Instead, practice on accepting your emotions. They come and go. They don't stay forever. It is OK that they are there and you don't have to do anything about them. Just see them and acknowledge that they are there right now and they will go away.
Accept that things aren't black and white, there are many gray zones. Accept that a coin has two sides. Just because there is a good, nice and lovable side it doesn't mean that there isn't a darker and more destructive side as well. And vice versa. It's OK. You don't need to put meaning or a value on your thoughts and feelings and you don't need to act on them. You can breath calmly and accept that they are there and they come and go.
Calm breaths, in and out...
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