The silence that prevents healing

As a relative to a person suffering from an addiction you often keep quiet and don't talk about your own problems. You might feel ashamed, guilty or maybe you got a bad conscience. You don't want anyone else to know how things really are. As a relative it is common to often put a lot of energy in keeping up a good looking facade. To smile even though you don't feel like it, or to lie in order to hide the truth.

Keeping quiet and not talking about how things really are is one of the biggest obstacles which stops us from staring to feel better. The silence prevents us from healing and feeling better.

Talking with others in order to hear their perspective and knowledge is an invaluable means to heal! That doesn't mean you have to share your deepest fears and problems with everyone you meet. We wouldn't do that anyway. Your inner struggles aren't everyone's business. But one idea is to choose a number of people that you trust. Talk to heal. If you want to talk to someone that knows more about relatives to people suffering from addiction, ask a therapist or coach whom work with these kind of problems.

Speak out! It's going to make you feel better. One step on that road can be to write something in the comment section on this blog! :-)